The owner has been identified.
Now it’s on to finding her.
First, in my original post on this topic, I mentioned a long ago coven and the idea that my Oldest Daughter thought I’d done a handfasting ceremony–or in this case a renewal of vows–for two people in the coven.
Hubby didn’t remember that.
I didn’t remember that.
I reached out to the one friend I have left from that coven and she didn’t remember that.
BUT…it has been about 30 years and in our defense the three of us have fried a bunch of brain cells in that time.
My mind kept going back to the lingering voice and the shadow of a woman who did match my friend from this coven. But I couldn’t be sure.
Out of the blue, my Youngest sent me a text to tell me all about this handfasting ceremony I did in the back yard when she was very young.
OK. Look. If my two daughters actually AGREE on anything, especially independent of each other…you better believe, that whatever it is, it’s TRUE. I know that because they can hardly agree the sky is blue. Ah, sisters.
While my brain is still fuzzy here…you’d think I’d remember doing that, right? I am ready to say ‘yes, this is the case’. I even DMd with my friend this morning to let her know and she’d been thinking about since last we ‘talked’ and she agreed that she thought it was our mutual friend’s dress. And that…I had done a handfasting ceremony in the backyard 30 years ago.
Ok.
I had just been “ordained” on Ye Olde Internet back then so…yeah, I did it. I do remember, after that, at least one other couple asking me to perform their marriage/handfasting ceremony but I was completely unsure of the ‘power of the internet’ and refused because I wanted their marriage to be legal. But a renewal of vows is different.
Time for a Scooby Snack as we try to find this woman! My friend is looking. I even swallowed a bit of pride, found another friend from the coven on FB whom I had a falling out with years ago and sent her a DM because she’s the last person who was in touch with our Bride…well, from our coven and that I know of. I would have just looked at her friends list but it’s private. I did cruise some of her recent posts to see if the Bride had commented on any of them but…nada.
I want to tell you our Bride’s name so badly so you can help me find her but that’s probably rude in such a public forum. BTW, my two friends above, have the same name. Yeah, they do, so we’re not going to mention their names either.
As my friend and I were DMing this morning we were also both looking up our Bride on FB and we were both shocked and amazed by HOW MANY women on FB have THAT name! OMG! This is crazy. I didn’t think it was that common of a name. It’s not like her name is ‘Jane Brown’ or something.
We tried looking up our Groom but not a single male by that name was found on FB. His first name is, um, very French. So he should be easily found but…no. Couldn’t find their kids either.
Tried Instagram. No dice. Thankfully there were only a tiny handful of women there by this name. None by his name.
Did the entire family just fall off the planet?
Last we heard things were not going well for our Bride and Groom who left our coven and dear Old New London for the call of the West. Most specifically Colorado…all those years ago. They were in the midst of separating or getting a divorce. Something like that.
I went to Google, I typed in our Bride’s name and the state and…I think I got a hit! A FB page. A fairly ancient unused and abandoned page but it did have a displayed email address and in that email address was the named she used within the coven. Yes, I sent off an email. I sent the link to my friend asking what she thinks. I’ll hear back from her later today.
TikTok has a massive number of women by this name but that site is not working correctly right now. I log-in but I’m not logged-in and none of the pages are working for me.
Until I hear back from this person I emailed (provided they still use that email address because it hasn’t bounced) or my friend who I was DMing with this morning I guess I’ll just sit back and wait.
Not my strongest suit. But, it’s been about 30 years so what’s a few more days?
What I really can’t understand is that the entire coven helped our Bride and Groom pack up their belongings and load the U-Haul. We all stood there teary eyed as we said our goodbyes and no one remembered the dress in my eaves. No one. Weird.
Lisa Beth Darling 